By Emma Pearson @emma_pear
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Videographer / director: Ruaridh Connellan
Producer: Emma Pearson, Nick Johnson
Editor: Sonia Estal
Reba Miller, who ‘married’ Thom Miller, with his 44-year-old wife Belinda’s permission, gave birth to her first child, Catherine Angelica, two months ago.
Now the devoted women and Thom, 61 – a devout Christian - plan to raise the baby jointly - with Reba calling herself ‘mom’ and Belinda calling herself ‘momma’.
Proud new dad, Thom, said: “Catherine has added to the family – she completes us. We’re all closer and she will be brought up with three times the love.
“We have the right to have a child and we all three have the right to love her and be a family.
“We are all her parents and we will all play a part in raising her - if anything, having two mums is better than one.”
Thom and Belinda became close to Reba when she volunteered with them at the church soup kitchen in their hometown of Mansfield, Ohio.
Thom had known Reba as a child but after meeting her again in her late teens he started ‘appreciating’ her as a woman.
Reba moved into Thom and Belinda’s marital home, marrying Thom on his seven-year anniversary to Belinda – and falling pregnant shortly after.
Thom and his wives say the pregnancy was a joint decision – and all three were involved every step of the way – from the pregnancy test right up until the birth.
Belinda said: I felt very excited when she was born and I felt as if she was a part of me as she was a part of them. I mean we are one big family.
“I have never felt excluded at any point during the pregnancy or the birth.
“All three of us were in the delivery room when Catherine was born and I experienced a wonderful rush of love when Reba gave birth.
“I don’t feel jealous that Reba is biologically Catherine’s mother.
"The baby completes our family - I couldn't have children with Thom myself so having Reba has been perfect.”
Reba endured an 18-hour labour and gave birth naturally on March 31 with the encouragement of Thom and her elder ‘sister wife’.
Belinda, who has seven other children, is now guiding new mum Reba through the first weeks of motherhood, and the pair split the responsibilities of caring for the newborn equally.
Reba said: “I breastfeed Catherine and I express milk so Belinda and Thom can feed her too.
“I feel lucky to have a sister wife to help care for the baby. If I’m tired Belinda is always on hand to step in and give me a break.
“We’ve never been closer since we had Catherine.”
And despite the exhaustion of caring for a newborn, the trio insists that having a baby hasn’t altered their sex lives at all and that Thom’s prowess remains intact.
Thom said: “I have no issues at all sexually and there’s still no difference between them - I’m not more excited to be with one over the other.
“I love each one of them differently and we share intimacy differently. I’m 61-years-old and I’m still a man.”
Thom spends three evenings with one wife before spending the next three nights with the other.
Catherine spends the nights between her three parents.
Belinda's biological daughter, Jamie, 18, lives in the unconventional family home and is thrilled to welcome her new sister.
She said: “Living with a polyamorous family is amazing. I have two moms and a dad and I think that Catherine is lucky to be brought up in such a loving home.
“I would definitely consider being a sister wife myself – it would be cool to have another woman to help with the cooking and cleaning.”
Jamie, who is about to go to college, says that she respects Reba as a stepmother, despite her being less than two years older than the teen.
But not everyone has responded so well to the news.
Some of Thom's older children have cut him off because of his lifestyle and Belinda's younger daughters have been taken into the care of social services.
Thom, who was a former Mafia enforcer before finding God, has even been kicked out of his church after his lifestyle became public knowledge.
But he, along with Reba and Belinda, say they have no regrets and will stand up and fight for their right to live as man and wives.
Belinda said: “Despite everything I’ve lost to live this lifestyle I don’t regret a single thing.
“My children have been taken into care but I hope they will be proud of me for standing up for what I believe in and we’re fighting to get them back.”
Reba – whose marriage to Thom is not legally recognised - is also quick to defend her lifestyle, although she admits her family find it hard to accept.
She said: “I can see how some people may consider this an unconventional way to raise a child but she is cared for and loved. Nobody else’s opinions matter.”